Saturday, August 30, 2008

I'm in Mexico!!


Don't ask. It's an incredibly long story and spelling it all out on blogsville might take a couple of days. So just look out for the book chronicling the Tukurah adventures in Mexico. Drama, romance and suspense. You will not be disappointed ;)

We were at the zoo in Mexico City today though and at one point I turned to hubby and said, "It might be a good idea to ask the zoo authorities to rent us a cage so the Mexicans can pay money to look at the Tukurah family". Why did I say that? Well everyone was staring at us and a couple of people even asked if they could take pictures of us. Definitely one of the strangest zoo trips I have ever taken. There were even some people trying to steal shots of my girls when we were not watching. It was quite humourous. We would have made a couple bucks if we had asked people to pay before looking at us so curiously. I'm sure we could have found a nice spot in the Africa section to set up camp. Because we were definitely the only Africans in the Mexico City zoo today. ha ha.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

I'm back

Wow. it has been so long. One thing after another. Then we lost internet service and did not have it back till this past weekend. I feel so out of touch with cyberspace right now.
Oh and my digital camera broke so I have not taken pictures in a while. Crazy stuff huh?

Well I am alive and well. Will include a better update soon :)

Friday, June 20, 2008

Mixed blessings??!!

So here is my small dilemma.

I am going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding on Saturday. While pregnant, I was hoping that I would lose the babyweight in good time so I would look great in my dress during the wedding.

I am happy to announce that because I am breastfeeding Jemimah, I was able to shed the pounds pretty quickly!! I can fit into all of my old jeans again which is wonderful because I love most of my jeans and other trousers!
The problem is that as a result of breastfeeding, I am quite blessed in the chest area, if you get what I mean ;) That means that my tops are a little tight in that general area. Many women pay plastic surgeons to help them get bigger in that area and here I am complaining. Oh life is so unfair :) Hmm, I wonder if they will shrink after I wean her because they did not shrink much after the first baby. Gosh, the things having children can do to your body.

Anyway, back to topic, so I was shopping for dresses and ended up buying one on the internet. It seemed like a beautiful dress but it was going to be shipped from China!! Not a problem since I purchased it weeks before the wedding right?? Wrong! I got the dress this afternoon (a week before the wedding). The dress would be perfect if I could fit my boobs in there. Arghhhhh. Now I have to go shopping and hope I find a dress in the right color and perfect fit. Wish me luck.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Oh no you didn't!!!

So I saw a clip online about a little boy of about 11 years of age. They were on the Dr. Phil show I guess and he was upset about the way that his mother treats him. Well the child went off on his mother telling her that she was not a good mother and she did not respect him as a human being and what not. Well the mother (who is a single mother by the way) was trying to say something back and this possessed child slapped his mother across the face.

I was very shocked and was waiting for that mother to show that child who is boss but she just sat there with a pained look on her face and tears in her eyes. I'm telling you I was wishing I could reach my hand into the screen and help this mother put her child in place. I am afraid of what would have happened to that child if his mother were an African woman. Oh he would be calling on angels to rescue him.

Many groups in America say that you should never spank your children. I hate to disagree with them but I do!!! Sweet Lord, my mother whooped my little behind and I turned out okay....I think :) Lord knows, I would have to be out of my mind to slap my mother! I would be afraid that fire would come from heaven and reduce me to an allotrope of carbon for commiting such a preposterous act. Nobody should ever.. ever... ever... EVER slap their mama!

Unfortunately, this boy who thinks it is okay to slap his mother may grow to become a wife beater if someone does not straighten him out right away.

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Baby Jem 1



Baby Jem 2


Our little Jem is growing so chubby! I love it. I guess I should not be surprised since she nurses so well and fairly often. The only time she will accept a bottle is when I am out and about and she is hungry and has to take one from Daddy.

We took some proffesional shots when she was two weeks old. That was a month ago!! Gosh. Time flies. Safiya is still fascinated with her little sister and just loves to shower her with kisses. It's so cute.

America's Loss

I'm not always in touch with politics in the US and Nigeria, but I was a big fan of Tim Russert. He was a fair political analyst and TV man.
His death was so sudden and unexpected.
I'm sure he just wanted to live long enough to see the result of the 2008 face off between Obama and McCain. Television in America will really miss Mr. Russert.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

This one's for you mom!


Yay! Jemimah is one month old. Time really flies. But she is growing so well, but she is nursing very well so I suppose that is to be expected. And she smiles a lot too. Strange for a baby that young.

Well at my baby shower, she got this onesie that said, "If mom says no, ask grandma".
Funny thing is when I was a child (i think I was about 7) I had a shirt that said the exact same thing! My uncle got it for me when he returned from one of his many trips and he got one for my brother Ibro that said, "Here comes trouble"! I wonder if Ibro remembers :)

Dora in Cincinnati??


Soo one of my great mysteries was solved recently.
It was really hard to understand some of the words that Safiya had been uttering mostly because I was not sure which language she was speaking!!
Let me preface this by saying that Safiya absolutely LOVES Dora the Explorer (the spanish speaking cartoon that many little girls love).
Well the mystery was solved when I realized that they were spanish words! Crazy stuff. Why is my child speaking Spanish?

Anyway, dear Safiya also loves to sing the Dora theme song and has Dora pajamas and Dora underwear, a Dora toothbrush and Dora sunglasses, you name it. She really loves her some Dora. She also is a big Elmo fan, but that is a topic for another day.

Well she went to the post office with Musa and there was a little Mexican looking girl with a pink tshirt and shorts and a hairdo just like Dora!!! Guess what? Safiya started pulling her Dad's hand in her direction and saying "Dora, Dora" and started singing the Dora song!! Talk about embarassing. Safiya thought her favourite TV character was live in front of her and her Daddy would not let her talk to Dora. Too funny.

Reminds me of a story that my parents told me. When I was a little girl I saw a white man with long brown hair and I thought he was Jesus!! jeesh.

Kids. There is never a dull moment is there? haha.

Congrats Bro!!

Just wanted to take a second to send a shout out to my little brother Ibrahim Faruk! He just graduated with bachelors degree in Political Science from the University of Jos and turned 22 on the 24th of May!!
Way to go brother.
Proud of you

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Rice Cooker?

I am one of those people who just loves kitchen appliances.

So the husband came home the other day with a rice cooker and a crockpot! I was very happy with the crockpot because I have always wanted one of those and somehow we never bought one. Now the rice cooker, I am not so sure about.
I have always cooked rice the old fashioned way on a stove, in a pot and have not had any major problems. The concept of a rice cooker just seems like a waste of kitchen counter space. Seriously am I just old fashioned and afraid of change?
Maybe someone can convince me that rice cookers are a necessity in the kitchen.

What I really want is one of those KitchenAid Mixers!!! I love those things. Maybe it is because I like to bake. Yeah they are expensive but they are soooo cool. I would gladly trade the rice cooker for one of those :) The mixer I have now is a cheapy but it gets the job done.

Maybe someday when I have my dream kitchen with a little island in the middle, I will get my KitchenAid as well!!. Yes, dreams do come true :)

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Park Pics





Park Walkers!




On Saturday, we took Jemimah on her first trip to the park. We went with Celeste and Clement (good friends of ours) and had a good time!!

Everyone then thought it would be fun to climb trees!! Usually, I would have been right up there with them ... but i doubt my doctor would be happy to hear that i was climbing trees three weeks after having a baby!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Life is fleeting

I just returned from a funeral a couple of hours ago and there was barely a dry eye in the church.
Jane Hall was 79 years old and a wonderful woman that I am blessed to have known and whose friendship I cherished. I used to work in a nursing home and I got to love and care for many of the elderly people that I was looking after and it was always hard to watch them die. I never got used to it.

I met Jane Hall in church though. We sang in the choir together and she was just a wonderful person who made everyone around her feel loved. She was one of those people who just had tremendous passion for life and treated every day as a gift from God to be cherished and enjoyed to full capacity. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in mid February and was given almost a year to live but did not make it that long unfortunately.

Today, I was reminded of how fleeting this life is and how important it is to cherish every day that God blesses us with. Sometimes tragedy occurs and there is nothing we can do but accept that their is a Higher Purpose of it all.

May her legacy live on, and as I mourn her death, I also celebrate her life and I pray this prayer...

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things that I can
and the wisdom to know the difference
Amen"

Happy Mother's day to me!!

And a Happy Mother's day to all the mothers out there. Sunday was my first mother's day with two children and it was a good one. I got flowers and a gift. I was actually supposed to get a diamond necklace but the money for that was used to fill the car's gas tank instead!! Okay, I'm just playing... I was not going to get a diamond necklace. But seriously, the price of gas is just ridiculous. At least now people are walking a lot more instead of driving. If things continue like this, America will be considerably skinnier by the end of the summmer :)
Not a terrible side effect of the terrible economy I guess. At least now people are learning to appreciate all that they used to take for granted.

Friday, May 9, 2008

I need new glasses!

The other night, I left my glasses on the side table in the living room. Well little miss Safiya woke up before everyone else and went on a destructive rampage in the living room. She usually comes and wakes one of us if she wakes up first but not this morning.
So Musa heard the ruckus and came to see what little miss was up to. She really did not destroy much but managed to break my glasses into three pieces!! The situation is beyond super glue intervention. Thankfully, I have almost a year supply of contact lenses but sometimes my eyeballs are tired and I need my glasses. oh what's a girl to do now? Money for new glasses isn't exactly growing on a tree just now.

and more pictures of the girls




Thursday, May 8, 2008

Kissy sister

I just love being a mother of two!! I was not sure I would have enough love in my heart for my growing family but I do. God is love so it would not make sense if we do not have enough love, that would mean we do not have enough God :)

Safiya is a wonderful big sister so far. We are a rather kissy family and it is so so cute to see Safiya kiss her little sister over and over again through out the day. And she does it so gently like she understands that babies are fragile and require gentle kisses :)
Or she puts her cheek against her sisters cheek and just holds it there for a few seconds. Too cute. They seem to look very alike too.
No sibling rivalry just yet and I hope it stays that way.

Everytime Jemimah gets the hiccups, Safiya starts laughing like it is the funniest thing ever. Watching them just cracks me up with laughter as well.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

pictures





Dad has been great with diaper duty!!!
Safiya loves her new baby!!
Dad is in love with all his girls.
What more can I ask for??
God is good.

YAY!!!






So what kind of person blogs from a hospital bed? I guess someone stamped crazy on my forehead!! Thank God for free wireless internet in Cincinnati hospitals :)

Well I finally had my baby girl and I just think she is beautiful. I am in love with this new addition to my life, I feel like my heart will burst. It's just wonderful. Her name is Jemimah Zigwai Tukurah and I just cannot describe her well enough so just look at the pictures. Zigwai means "thank you" in Musa's language Bajju, and that's what we are - grateful to God for her life.

Musa and I went into the hospital at 1pm on Wednesday (April 30th) to be induced. And sat in the waiting room for an hour!! Crazy stuff. Before we left to the hospital, I left Safiya with a good friend Celeste. The crazy kid just walked off without saying bye and giving me a kiss. I was upset that it did not seem like she was going to miss me :) She did great though. Celeste said she did not cry once although she did break her coffee pot. tsk tsk. Obnoxious: that child of mine.

Oh well, back to my labour story... I was finally checked into a room and the nurse midwife came in a broke my bag of water at 2:30pm. I was already 5cm dilated before they broke the bag of water. She decided to just let my body do it's thing without any additional hormones and see if my body is ready to go without Pitocin.
A good friend from church who's also my choir director Miriam was also there to give support. So we all sat talking and generally having fun till the real painful contractions began at about 5:30pm. My plan was to go natural without pain medication so I used a birthing ball and hubby was there to massage my back and apply counter pressure while Miriam was holding my hand and helping me breathe through it. They were great!
By 7:15 pm I felt so ready to push. I felt like the kid was about to fall out!! I kept saying, "I need to push. Let me push".
After about 15minutes of pushing, Miss Jemimah was here with about an inch of hair!!! No I am not one of those women who yells at their husbands while in labour. I was just so glad to push her out of me. It felt like a really big painful poop that needed to come out now :)

She weighed 6pounds 10.1 ounces and was 20 inches long! I thought she would be bigger considering how long she was in there. looks just like Safiya! It was quite an ordeal and I thank God for everything!! I'm just overjoyed. I love my new family of four !!!!

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

A nice poem I found.

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting, "I've been saved!"
I'm whispering, "I get lost! That's why I chose this way"

When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't speak with human pride
I'm confessing that I stumble-needing God to be my guide

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I'm weak and pray for strength to carry on

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting that I've failed and cannot ever pay the debt

When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't think I know it all
I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught

When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are far too visible but God believes I'm worth it

When I say, "I am a Christian," I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache which is why I seek His name

When I say, "I am a Christian," I do not wish to judge
I have no authority--I only know I'm loved


Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer

This poem over the years has been incorrectly attributed to Maya Angelou but was really written by Carol Wimmer (www.carolwimmer.com)

Monday, April 28, 2008

Song of the day.

I am still awake at this time of the night. Why? I really don't know either. Anyway, I finally found the person who sang this song "Mercy". Her name is Duffy and saw her on Jay Leno tonight. I've heard the song before and fell in love with it but did not know who the artiste behind the voice is. Very reminiscent of Amy Winehouse whom I also love despite her craziness.



Oh. and I have a second song of the day. Chrisette Michele, very soulful and beautiful singer. I do not know why she is not popular. My cousin introduced me to her sound some time back and she is just wonderful and her voice is soooo much better than a lot of the slutty wannabes out there.

She has a song that is sung from a daughter to her father called "Your Joy" that I love as well, but the one here is "If I have my way" which is my fave.

On or before Wednesday!

Whatever happens, this baby will be born before the month of April is over. Yay!!!
I went in today and was scheduled for a medical induction for Wednesday afternoon (April 30). They tried to schedule me for tomorrow (Tuesday) but they were unable to squeeze me in.

So because of hospital logistics, I still have to go tomorrow for an ultrasound and to check the amniotic fluid levels before inducing on Wednesday because I'm at 41 weeks. If they think that anything is wrong, I will either have an emergency induction or emergency C-section. So let's pray it does not come to that.

What I would love is to just go into labour on my own sometime today. I'm walking around 5cm dilated and 70% effaced as of this morning! Why isn't this baby here I wonder?? Just trying not to worry that something is wrong.

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Pray for me

Yes. I want to have this baby tonight. I'm waiting on my miracle. Hubby and I said that considering how long she has been in there, she had better come out cute as a button and potty trained. hehehe. if only.... talking about the potty trained part of course. I know she will be cute as a button :)

Who invented these?


One day, someone woke up and thought it would be a brilliant idea to invent this shopping cart that children will love. Well, thank God for that person thinking about the children but were they thinking about the parents??

First of all, those things are impossible to maneuver, making a regular trip to the grocery store longer than it ought to be. Second, is that the space for groceries is so small that you have to get a second regular cart to fit in all the things that you want to buy. Now how is that convenient when you are the only adult present? Then I start to think about the germs that other children have left behind in those carts. I know. I have problems.

Gosh!!! Anyhoo. I guess it is one of those things that we do just to get our kids to shut up so we can shop in peace. Except for those times when the child decides that he/she is tired of sitting in the car and they want out, leaving you pushing it around without a passenger and feeling utterly ridiculous.

Saturday, April 26, 2008

Little Miss Safiya




My dear child is beginning to make a habit of getting up in the middle of the night and continuing to sleep on the floor. The other day we found her in the doorway of her bedroom asleep. Nowhere near the bed. She must have been trying to come to our room and fell asleep before she could get there.

We were are the park yesterday and she was following this little boy around like a tail. I've come to the conclusion that she either thinks that she is a boy or she just likes to play with boys. Everytime we go for storytime at the library on Friday mornings, she is the little girl running around with the rambunctious boys while the girls sit quietly listening to the story. How embarassing (for me that is). In the church nursery, she plays with only the boys too!! My little tomboy :) Maybe this next one will be a lady.

In need of Divine Intervention.

I have officially tried it all besides strangling the midwife and threatening to end her life if she does not induce me.

First of all, I thought the power of positive thinking and meditation exercises would communicate to this baby that it is safe out here and she can come out. That did not work.

Then, I decided to get more active and take long intense walks to somehow jiggle the baby out of there. That has not worked either.

I tried other extracurricular activities :)
did not work

I ate lots and lots of spicy foods. Nothing.

The midwife stripped my cervical membranes to hurry things along. So far, the baby does not seem to understand that it means she can come out.

So, today I decided to try a nasty castor oil and juice concoction that is supposed to induce labour. All that has managed to do is send me to the toilet where I proceeded to stink up the whole place. Yes, I know that castor oil has a laxative effect but I figured I would try it anyway. I did not take as much as suggested because I could not stomach the stuff and was afraid it would cause some serious diarhhoea. Maybe that's why it did not work (I did not take enough).

Well, now it is totally up to Jesus. I'm just going to sit here and wait for divine intervention.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

you're still here???

I am beginning to tire of hearing that question. Someone must have jinxed me. I mean how else can I explain why I am still pregnant? I just miss the non-pregnant times right now.

1. I miss being able to sleep on my stomach.

2. I miss my belly button.

3. I miss having a glass of cabernet sauvignon every now and then.

4. I miss being able to bend and touch my toes.

5. I miss my coffee addiction.


5 Things I will miss after having this baby


1. I will miss being able to eat as much food as I please and be able to say, "I am eating for two"!

2. I will miss being able to send hubby to get what I need because "my back hurts and I need some rest". hehehehe

3. I will miss strangers rushing to open doors for me and treating me like a fragile, valuable artifact.

4. I will miss feeling my baby move inside of me.

5. I will miss my big booty (assuming it goes back to it's normal size after baby is born!) I think hubby will miss it too ... wink.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Due date!!!

Today is my due date!! yes it is and I am still here and still pregnant. Lawd have mercy!
Well I did have my appointment today and the midwife stripped my membranes to help things along. Soooooo, I hope this baby still comes out today or at least tomorrow. If I do not go into labour on my own, I will be induced next week.
Keeping my fingers crossed.
Pray for me people :)

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Please come baby!!!


Oh my gosh I am so so tired!! I want this baby out of me today! Had to call this morning becuase my heart suddenly started pounding hard and fast and I was very lightheaded. It was scary. I thought me and baby were in danger and was already having visions of an emergency C-section!!! (I am deathly afraid of having a Caesarian section). The midwife just told me to basically stay off my feet all day and take it easy.
Seriously, this child needs to come out so she can meet her parents and big sister and give me some relief from the heart burn and the leg pains and the general hormonal madness!
Well, I am just sitting here taking it easy today. That means hubby can cook tonight!! Yay! Or he can just go out and buy me something spicy from Taco Bell or Chinese take out :)

Decided to share another pregnant photo. I thought it would be nice to spare you the agony of seeing my stretch marks so I artistically covered them up! All the manufacturers of cocoa butter lotion have made so much money off of me in my quest to prevent belly stretch marks. However, the cocoa butter did not do jack for me. I guess some of us are just destined to carry the battle scars of pregnancy on our bellies forever. How lucky I must be!!!! I could really just strangle all the women who never get stretch marks. So if you are one of them, do not introduce yourself to me if you love your life. :)

Friday, April 18, 2008

Wedding jitters??

Our good friends Erica and Caspar are getting married at the end of June and I am part of the bridal party!! That gives me only two months to lose all the baby weight so I can look hottt!!!
Okay who am I kidding???. There is no way I could lose all the baby weight in two weeks. I'm no Heidi Klum with her sexy post-baby bod. I will just have to rock my big booty in a bridesmaid dress :) I am actually looking forward to it.
yay for weddings.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

My little model


This picture was taken when Safiya was in a rather somber mood. However it came out looking like a perfect model pout and pose. Hmmm maybe I should send it to Vogue fashion magazine to see if she has a future in the industry! ha

Monday, April 14, 2008

Sleeping Beauty


We were able to successfully move Safiya from her crib to a toddler bed some time ago and she has been doing pretty well in the new bed. Although sometimes she wakes up in the middle of the night, walks to our bedroom and climbs into bed with us. Well this night, she must have woken up in the middle of the night and continued her slumber on the floor which is where her dad found her in the morning and took this picture!

Giving in


SO I figured "what the heck"? feel free to see a picture of my basketball. The baby is cozy in there and still does not want to come out. I thought I was finally going into labour yesterday but it was a false alarm :(

Saturday, April 12, 2008

Getting impatient

Goodness, you do not even want to know about the size of my belly. No pictures because i feel like a cow. I am getting impatient and ready to have this child out of me. My midwife thought I would be quite early but this baby is on her own schedule and does not care about medical predictions.
I have never craved pain this much in my entire life. I sit and bid the labour contractions come upon me. Is this normal? Anyhoo. We can do nothing but wait. In the meantime, I have been walking everywhere to induce labour :)

Monday, April 7, 2008

Loving Spring!



The snow is finally gone for good I hope. I just love spring with all the wet soil and green grass and beautiful flowers. So why is winter necessary again? I would not mind if that season was totally scrapped but I guess there are some people out there who really do enjoy the snow for some strange reason. ha ha
Safiya is loving the weather too and she wants to be outside all the time. Even when it is raining!!! Small wonder the child has a runny nose now. But she'll live.


Well I am still here and still pregnant. The countdown has begun. Been having some contractions but nothing major yet. A little scared about going through labour once more but I am sure that all will be well. Anyhoo, I think I am ready and the baby should feel free to come any day!

Saturday, April 5, 2008

I'm back!!

So after extensive hardware surgery, our computer is back! May I hear a "Hallelujah"!
It's been crazy without the computer and the internet and I think I was cured of my internet addiction during that period so some good came out of it I guess.

Anyway, I am still very pregnant and waiting for my new baby to be here any day now really. I am full term (38wks) and just cruising along with all my bodily aches and pains. It's crazy what we women do having kids and all. If men were the child bearers, I think the human race might be in danger of extinction today :)

Well today has been a busy day getting all the baby stuff together and doing some spring cleaning.

By the way, I had a surprise baby shower on Thursday and it was great. What was especially nice is the fact that we will not have to buy diapers for the new baby for a while. Yay!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

God's goodness

Lots of things have been happening in the Tukurah household lately that were definitely putting our faith to the test.
But one thing I have learned in the past weeks is that God never forsakes His own. He has proved himself faithful over and over again and He will surely finish the good work that He started.
Just a note of encouragement to anyone going through stuff right now. God did not bring you so far to abandon you :)

Funny story

Hey hey hey

Just had to share a really funny story that happened to us the other day. The weather was just so beautiful in this unpredictable Ohio so we decided to make a trip to the local park and enjoy it. As we were pulling out onto the road, I noticed that a lady in a purple minivan was signalling at Musa trying to get his attention but I thought nothing of it. I just thought she was some lady who though she had the right of way or something and was trying to cuss us out. Anyway, hubby did not notice and I did not say anything either.

I noticed she was following us after a while and still thought nothing of it. I did not mention it to Musa as we were talking about something else in the car.
Anway, as we were pulling into the parking lot of the park, i saw her come in right after us and that was when I started to wonder what was really going on. I was the first one to come out of the car while hubby was trying to get Safiya out of her carseat in the back and the woman was just looking at me and my big pregnant belly so I offered her a smile, unsure of what she was all about. She kept looking until hubby emerged out from the cover of the car and she turned her attention to him. The next words to come out of her mouth had us laughing for the rest of the evening. She said, "Oh I'm sorry. I thought you was my husband." Those were here words verbatim. And then the dear lady drove off. It was too funny.

Here she was probably thinking that her husband was living a double life and he had another woman on the side who had a child and another on the way. I can only imagine what was going though her mind as she followed us thinking she had finally caught her cheating husband red handed and he would not be able to deny the affair.
Ha ha.

Well I am glad she was able to get that off her chest and have her evidence that her husband was not carrying on with another woman, namely me.
Oh but it sure was hilarious for us :)

Monday, March 10, 2008

Technical Difficulties

Sooooooo! My laptop died!!! I'm in mourning. Means I have to go to the library for internet for a while. Will miss my blogging but I'll be back soon I promise. Miracles happen and the dead can be raised again.... or perhaps a new laptop will fall from heaven :)

Laterzzz

Saturday, March 8, 2008

Snowed In!!!

We are snowed in here in Cincinnati today! Unbelievable I tell you. About 10 inches of snow fell in 24hours. Thankfully, no one has anywhere to go. So we are all curled up and waiting for the sun to shine again :)

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

proud of me!

I have officially joined the ranks of Martha Stewart, Betty Crocker and Wolfgang Puck! Yes, I am one of the greatest cooks in the world because I declare myself so today.
Why am I so proud of myself today you might ask? Well I baked two loaves of bread today and they were great!!! Me!! Baked bread!! Isn't that great? I mean how many people can say that they baked their own bread, in their own oven, in their own kitchen besides the most famous cooks in the world? Okay and maybe a half a million other people.
Anyway, you can stop rolling your eyes at me now. I am just proud of my kitchen conquest today that's all. Gosh! I have turned into such a domesticated creature and am definitely something to behold. hehehehe :)
Everyone is welcome to come and sample some of this wonderful bread fit for a king and queen! And keep checking into your local bookstore, as my new cookbook will be hitting the shelves soon (wishful thinking).
It's alright, give me a pat on the back. I am welcoming all the feathers that I can add to my hat!

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Daddy's girl

I've always wondered what it is about men and their daughters. The saying daddy's girl is supported by countless examples and i must say that hubby and Safiya definitely support it.
As I sit here typing, he is taking out the braids that I put in her hair. When I need help with my hair, he looks at me as if I am insane, but without any prompting, he is more than willing to take the braids out of his daughter's hair! What is up with that? I think my baby girl has stolen my husband!!!! aaaaahh! and to think that another daughter is on the way. What is going to happen to me? I will be totally abandoned by my man. ha ha.
Anyway, it is great when a man will do anything for his little girl including her hair :) That's love.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Going green.


No, I am not envious of anyone, I am talking about the green environmental revolution. All of a sudden, every TV show is encouraging us to live green.
Don't drive, take the bus so that there will be less pollution.
Use paper bags or reusable bags at the grocery store not the plastic non biodegradable ones.
I can do all that, but the most difficult while living in America is to buy and eat organic foods!!! Is it really possible to eat organic grown foods in this country where all the peppers and tomatoes are so genetically engineered and coated with preservatives till they look like plastic and you might get cancer just from looking at them too long? Honestly after moving here I found new reasons to pray before I eat my meals. My prayers go something like this,
"Dear Lord, as I eat this chemically polluted food please keep my cells benign and may my beef taste like it actually came from a cow. Amen"

Seriously though, I can cook beef in 15 minutes and chicken in ten minutes! And did I mention that the chicken parts are huge?! There is no way those thighs and drumsticks came from a real chicken. I miss the taste of those free range chickens in Africa. You know the ones you get when you go to the village to visit your relatives and for some reason everyone feels like they need to give you a live chicken from their yard as a present? But man those birds tasted good. I am salivating just thinking about them. yummy yummy yummy!

My other problem with the food here is that genetically engineered food is much cheaper than the healthier and tastier naturally farm grown alternative. So what incentive does that give struggling young families like ours to eat healthier options when we are trying to save our pennies? It really is frustrating. If I lived in a house with a big yard, maybe i could just turn my backyard into a little farm and grow fruits and veggies that do not have potentially dangerous chemicals in them.

But on a more serious note though, God put us here as stewards of creation and it is our duty to keep our world clean by not polluting it with unnecessary gas emissions and trash. If we don't, where will our children live?

Monday, February 18, 2008

Update

So today we are all sick :( Isn't that terrible?? Safiya was running a fever of 103 throughout yesterday and all night. It finally broke thank God but she is still not a happy camper. Hubby is most recovered so he is the one taking care of all of us right now because I am here coughing my guts out.
Pray for us. May God heal us all.

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Sick Day

It's a sad rainy day. Today is our marriage anniversary and everyone besides me is sick! Isn't that sad?
Both hubby and baby have the flu. Keep them in your prayers please and pray that I do not catch it too :) I am the primary caretaker of both of them as well as the baby in vitro right now so I need to stay well.

I sing in the choir in church. Coincidentally, choir was canceled for today so at least I did not have to miss it due to illness :)

Friday, February 15, 2008

Mama Africa!


My father sent this to me and I thought it would be nice to share.
Africa needs people to stand and fight for her honour and that is why I pray God can use me and many others to fulfill His will for our beautiful continent!


2007 Archbishop Desmond Tutu Leadership Fellows

February 10, 2008


AN OPEN LETTER TO AFRICA'S PRESENT AND FUTURE LEADERS

“This continent has suffered too much.… We need the assistance and commitment of … young leaders to
continue to speak up on behalf of the poor and the marginalized, and seek a better life for all”
– Archbishop Desmond Tutu, April 2007


From Angola to Zimbabwe, questions abound about Africa’s present state. All capitals listed
between Abidjan to Zanzibar, are not new to the rising voices of Africa’s sons and daughters
who wish to know the fate of their land. Some express this concern through silent hope, others
through evident fear, and many others look in no other direction than that of their leaders –
those we have come to know as the captains of the ship of the state. Others even argue that
Africa’s answers remain with future leaders, and not today’s. But there has been a crisis of
leadership in Africa. The hopes and dreams of the citizens of this continent have been dashed by
our post colonial leaders – from the heroes of the liberation struggles through to the leaders of
opposition parties that subsequently emerged.

The citizens of Africa deserve a brighter future, and that begins with visionary leaders who can
answer the challenges that Africa faces as part of a global community in the 21st century. Recent
events across the continent are cause for serious concern: from the crisis of corruption in
Nigeria, the political tensions in South Africa leading to the 2009 election, or the political crisis
in Kenya which is turning a once prosperous country into one that is marred by bloodshed and
ethnic tensions. The ongoing conflict in Sudan, the current crisis in Chad, or the socio-political
and economic meltdown obtaining in Zimbabwe have all caused great instability in the lives of
millions of Africans across the continent.

We do not seek to play the usual game of just listing the problems but join our voices to that of
over 920 million Africans to demand fair play in political processes. Though all of our
democracies are young we expect our leaders to be men and women of excellence who respect
the electoral process and as such the wishes of the people. As young people in Africa who are
leaders in politics, business, health and information technology, we stand together and recommit
ourselves to the ideals of true leadership, and we make the following recommendations:

(a) The establishment of a high-level African Union led campaign to fight tribalism and
inequality in all its forms across the continent. Each country should establish a Commission
Against Tribalism and Inequality (CATI) to fight the scourges, and to protect vulnerable
minority groups. CATI should bring politicians using ethnic manipulations to perpetrate
violence to justice and stop them from participating in future political contests;

(b) Political leaders must be servant leaders and use their power and influence as a tool for
socio-economic change rather than oppression and fuelling personal greed;

(c) The establishment and strengthening of relevant institutions (judiciary, electoral
commissions, etc) that ensure independence of the Electoral Regulatory Authorities in each
country; and the establishment of an AU Electoral monitoring body which monitors
election and has a clear, well defined set of guidelines which it uses to determine if the
process is free or fair;

(d) The rediscovery of our true identity as Africans, to embrace and inculcate the moral
base of honesty, love, peace and integrity. We believe that people of integrity would not
allow a beautiful, socially and economically stable country like Kenya to collapse into
political disarray;

(e) The strengthening of our national economies, and systems to ensure the provision of
adequate health care, education and other social services that will equip all Africans to
partake in a better future.

As young leaders in our own various spheres of influence, we as the 2007 Archbishop Desmond
Tutu Leadership Fellows1 find silence at this critical moment inconvenient. We believe that
silence and inaction in the face of yesterday’s challenges are responsible for the anomalies we
see across the continent today. We lend our voices to the call for African leaders – today, and in
the future – to consider the common good over personal fears or greed. We are proud of those
who have shown us that leadership is about service and call on all other leaders to remain true to
the spirit of purposeful leadership.

Signed: 2007 Archbishop Desmond Tutu Fellows [Brilliant Mhlanga (Zimbabwe), Dan Kidega (Uganda),
Ed Mabaya (Zimbabwe), Erik Charas (Mozambique), ‘Gbenga Sesan (Nigeria), Grace Ofem (Nigeria),
Hassan Usman (Nigeria), Herine Otieno (Kenya), Ipeleng Mkhari (South Africa), Lisa Kropman (South
Africa), Mezuo Nwuneli (Nigeria), Niven Postma (South Africa), Saida Ali (Kenya), Takalani Musekwa
(South Africa), Tariro Makadzange (Zimbabwe), Terence Sibiya (South Africa), Tracey Webster (South
Africa), Yohannes Mezgebe (Ethiopia), Yolan Friedmann (South Africa)]



1 Each year, 20 high potential individuals from across sub-Saharan Africa are awarded the prestigious Archbishop
Tutu Leadership Fellowship, following a rigorous competitive selection process. The Awards are aimed at the cream
of the continent’s future leaders, specifically targeting the next generation of Africa’s leaders in all sectors of society,
between the ages of 25 and 39. The fellowship program is coordinated by African Leadership Institute, and it
includes a training program coordinated by the SAID Business School at Oxford University. For more information
about the Fellowship, please visit www.alinstitute.org.

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Spreading the love!!!


Happy Valentine's Day everyone! Well it is 11:37pm by my clock so the day is almost over but I figured I could get this post in before the day is officially over.
By the way, hubby got me flowers!!! Wasn't that sweet of him? Yes, I thought so too. I was delighted and I can say that I had a good day. I even took a picture of my bouquet to immortalize them :)
Hubby is sick today though with a bad cold :( Hope he gets well soon.

Who came up with Valentine's Day anyway? The day of love huh? Well everyday should be a day for love (and I am not suggesting that I should get flowers everyday although I would not mind). wink wink.
I am reminded today that God is love and that love is eternal because God is eternal! So Happy day of God everyone.
hugs

Muzika!

The other day, I was on YouTube feeding my YouTube addiction when I came across this Jeremiah Gyang video. I love his music, great voice and lots of talent. Anyway, there is this one song that he sings in his language and I never knew there was a video for it. The nice thing is that it has subtitles so I finally know what the song means!
love it. Enjoy.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Candid photo


This is an old picture taken about a year ago of Safiya and Olivia. Olivia's grandma, Louise used to babysit them on Mondays and was the one who took the picture.
I love it because they look so deep in conversation. It's pretty comical!

Just another day.

So my baby girl still has a runny nose :( She is sleeping well at night though so I guess I really should not be complaining. I just want her to be completely better. At least she does not have the flu which has been making its rounds throughout Cincinnati.

I received a really cool tip the other day about what to do for cough and colds. Rub Vicks on your feet!! Sounds pretty crazy huh? Guess what though? I tried it and it worked!! I rubbed the Vicks on her chest and back like I usually do when she has a cold, then I massaged some into her feet as well. She slept soundly like babies are supposed to. Hope the tip can help you too someday :)

Sunday, February 10, 2008

The child is growing!





Getting ready for baby number two has been a slow process. Luckily, I do not have to buy very many clothes since I am having another girl and I kept quite a few of Safiya's clothes. One of these days I really need to get them all out and launder them so they will be fresh and clean for the new arrival.

The other night I had a dream that I had the baby at home in the tub!! Not good. I told hubby about the dream and he was not too amused. I guess we need to put clean towels aside and disinfect the scissors just in case. ha ha. That will be quite the adventure I am sure.

Well we finally got another bed for Safiya so the crib can go to her little sister when she is born. I think I was more excited about the bed than she was!! My little baby is growing so fast. I miss my tiny little Safi! Anyway, after we assembled the bed and rearranged the room that the girl's will be sharing, we just needed to keep our fingers crossed and hope that Safiya would actually sleep in the bed. She has had somewhat of a runny nose and cough lately so she has not been sleeping very well to begin with. I am proud to announce that she spent half the night in her own new bed!! The other half she spent in our bed which was not comfortable at all. She must have been an octupus or something in another life because when she is in bed with us, it is almost like she has 8 limbs flailing wildly about while she sleeps. The result in the morning is two tired, grumpy and sometimes bruised adults and one happy, over energetic toddler. Not a good match!

Hopefully when she is fully recovered, we can have our bed and our injury-free sleep back!

My good friend Maggie was here over the weekend. It was really nice to see her again. I just had to add a picture of the beautiful mug that she gave me that was filled with heart shaped chocolates. Sorry I can't share the chocolate with anyone, because we pregnant women do not share chocolate with others as a rule :)

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Dreams

One day I closed my eyes and dared to dream. I had dreams of a better tomorrow, of a life free from sorrow. I dreamed of freedom from my limitations and of achieving all my aspirations. I dreamed of a future so bright and dreamed throughout the dark night.

Somehow my desire to see those dreams become a reality brought me to a foreign land, far from my family, far from my home. A land where I was in danger of losing my identity and maybe even my soul. Could it be that my dreams were slowly turning into nightmares? Because all of a sudden they were no longer making sense. At times I felt like I was aboard a promising ship but one that was destined to sink like the Titanic. And just like the Titanic, the band kept playing as though nothing was wrong. There were icebergs in my sea, closing in around me, threatening to sink me into an icy cold grave of despair and defeat.

I kept pinching myself and wishing away such a terrible end to my envisioned fairy tale. When was I going to get to the "happily ever after" part? But I could not wake up because it was not a dream, it was my reality.

So I sat down on the floor, drew my knees to my chest with my arms wrapped tightly around my legs. I began to rock back and forth and prayed to a Higher power, the only One who could save me. Eventually, I fell asleep, curled up in the fetal position as though making myself as tiny as possible so that no one would notice I was there. Maybe then, no evil could come to harm me. As I slept, I began to dream again.

I dreamed of dusty roads and rusty automobiles. I felt the hot sun and the aroma of grilled meats floated gently up my nostrils. I heard different languages most of which I could recognise but not all could I understand. I saw faces, all different shades of brown with a random face of a much lighter colour scattered here and there. I was at peace, I was happy, I was home.

Then I awoke. I am still a stranger in a foreign land and my travels have taught me much a greatly enriched my life. Still I am dreaming, and on the wings of these dreams I will fly to where I belong - my home.

Just another day

Wow! The temperature was up to 63 degrees Farenheit today in Cincinnati, which is 17 degrees Celcius to the rest of the world. Hard to believe it got that warm. But I was not able to go out and enjoy it because it rained all day. Bummer!
The fact that I began this entry with talk about the weather should let you know that I really do not have much to talk about :)

Well I did get a phone call from my darling mother this morning. That was really nice. Funny thing is that I was dreaming that I was in Nigeria when the phone rang. I must be pyschic. Always knew there was something special about me. ha ha. It's okay, go ahead and roll your eyes at me. You see? I really do have ESP!

Yes, so it has just been one of those days for me. I was scheduled to do some serious cleaning around the house today but the spirit was willing and the flesh was weak. Hopefully, the spirit and the flesh will both be willing tomorrow to get some grime out of the floors and the dust out of the rugs. No, my residence is not filled with dust and grime before you begin to call the sanitation department to my house. It's just that my dear daughter takes pleasure is creating chaos out of order and yours truly is left to pick it all up. That is not an easy task with a huge belly, believe me!

Can't wait to pop this baby out in April so I can get my body back!! It's great that women are so willing to rent out their bodies to those cute little parasites also known as babies. At least I have an excuse for eating lots and lots of food. Gosh, just talking about food is causing me to get hungry all over again! So help me God. Laterzzzz. Gotta go grab a bite.

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Nappy hair and crazy suggestions.

So a couple of months ago, I decided to chop all my hair off! Yikes. I know. The thing is, I decided that I wanted to grow my hair back naturally without chemical alteration. Too few black women embrace what people call our nappy stubborn hair. But I believe that it can be managed and can be beautiful without being chemically altered and I wanted to give it a try.

Well the result of that experiment is the cute little afro that I have been rocking lately. Takes a lot of confidence to pull that one off I tell you. Every now and then when I can find the time, I braid it myself though (a very time consuming and tiring process with hair like mine). But I am proud of myself and I know it will be a while before I can put this hair in a ponytail. So for now I am chugging along and hoping that the hair is willing to come on this challenging and exciting journey with me.

Anyway, I was in the checkout line at the store yesterday with the rest of my little family. Safiya is always very restless by the time that we get to the checkout line, but she was not too terrible today. So, I was talking to Musa my husband and our accents make it quite obvious that we are foreigners in this crazy country. Well the woman behind me who was also black asks, "Are you African?" to which I replied, "yes". The next question to come out or her mouth is, "Why don't you put a perm in your daughter's hair? She would look so much prettier", like it has something to do with the fact that I am African. I wish I had the courage to say, "Lady, you have got to be out of your d*mn mind! Who is the irresponsible individual who puts a perm in a baby's hair? And my baby girl is very beautiful just the way she is, thank you very much!" But I am not that brave so I just said, "No I am not going to put a perm in her hair." And that was the end of the discussion.
Can't the woman see that even I do not have a perm relaxer in my hair? I was appalled that she would suggest that I put a chemical relaxer in my 1 1/2 year old daughter's hair when I am still washing it with Johnson's baby shampoo! I admit it is not easy to get this little one to sit still so I can do her hair and her thick curly hair has already broken two combs of mine! Still, I will not be crazy enough to put a perm in a little child's hair.
Goodness gracious! The kind of people I meet in this crazy city.

It would be nice if Mrs. Crazy from the checkout line comes across this blog so she can see what answer I really wanted to give her. Rubbish!

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Help! I am turning into my mother!!


Don't get me wrong it is not a bad thing, it is just a strange thing. This is probably a common process for most women but it does not make it any less scary.

For example, when we were out and about the other day, I noticed that there was some dried up food on my daughter's face that I must have missed before we left home. So what do I do? The most logical thing of course - lick your finger and use the saliva to wipe the spot of her face. Yikes! Definitely something that my mother would do, and in public no less. So there is proof that I am turning into my mother slowly but surely.


There are other little mannerisms that I have inherited from my mother that she probably inherited from her own mother, so the gift must be passed on. My poor daughters, heaven help them for they are descendents of goofy women.


Motherhood is definitely an interesting role and full of adventures. Now that I am a mother, I must say that I respect my own mum a million times more. If she ever reads this blog, "I love you Mummy! Hugs and Kisses and thank you for the sacrifices that you made for me".


But anyway, I remember several times when my daughter was ill and throwing up, I would turn her toward me so that she would puke on me rather than on my new couch! ha ha. Perfectly logical of course to let a child vomit all over you to save your couch and carpet. It should be called motherhood mania :) Seriously though, I can always take my clothes off and throw them in the washing machine then jump into the shower. However, I cannot take my couch and throw it in the machine can I?


Also, times without number I have caught myself picking my daughter's nose for her when I see dried up boogers in there. Funny because her dad does it too sometimes. Oh the selfless things we do for our children!


I think for the first time, I understand what is meant by unconditional love. If God sees us as children, I now understand even more why Jesus died for us on a cross. Such love is so powerful, so selfless, truly unconditional.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

Movies for Mommies!!

I was lamenting that I had not been to see a movie on the big screen since I had Safiya. That means I had not been to the movies since July of 2006 when she was born. She was born about 10 days earlier than expected and I remember hoping that she would not be born till my due date so I could go see the second Pirates of the Carribean movie. Well that did not happen :(

Anyway, I was on a Cincinnati parenting website and saw that a cinema here was starting a program called "Movies for Mommies"! Boy was I excited to see that. It's okay to bring your children to see the film and they have a changing table and bottle warmer inside the theatre! Pretty exciting huh? The nice thing is that mothers can breastfeed without people giving them strange looks and no one gets angry at you when your baby gets fussy.

The downside is that they show movies once a week at 10am on Wednesday mornings. So only stay at home mothers and fathers can go and you cannot make it a date with your husband or significant other since they are likely to be at work or school at that time. Also, it is not advisable to take children who are old enough to know what is going on in the movie because they show movies geared toward adults and not children's movies. I don't want to go to see a film with my child where she might end up learning how to use cuss words!

Needless to say, I went for the first time yesterday and it was great. My first movie outing since becoming a mother! Yay for me. I saw "Atonement" the one with Kiera Knightley that has been generating a lot of Oscar buzz. Safiya was so well behaved too, but was more interested in playing with the other babies than sitting quietly on my lap and taking a nap like I thought she would. Too bad my dear husband could not come with us. He has not been to the movies since Safiya was born either. Poor guy, he is such a good daddy and he deserves it. We really need to find a babysitter one of these evenings and have a date night (just the two of us). Date night has been soooo long overdue and I know we would both enjoy it. We used to have dinner and a movie night at least twice a month before she was born!
Any volunteers for a babysitter???!!!!

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Can't wait to meet my baby

Child of mine.
I feel her moving inside of me and poking the insides of my belly
I can see funny bumps appear and disappear as she seems to be trying to climb out on her own. She is quite an active one just like her big sister so I probably will have my hands full once she makes her grand entrance into this crazy world of ours.
Yes as far as ultrasounds are concerned, I am having another girl in April God willing.
I'm scared and excited at the same time.

Scared because the thought of having two high maintenance, hormonal teenage girls sometime in the future is something that I am really not looking forward to.
But we are supposed to take it one day at a time right? So far, that "one day at a time" method has been working out pretty well for me so I will probably stick with it.

Excited too because I always wanted a sister when I was growing up, even though I love my brothers to death and will not trade them. So a sister will be a wonderful present for my dear Safiya I hope. Already she kisses and rubs my belly and says, "baby?" like she is confirming what we told her was in there. It's really cute. The funniest part is like many little girls who do not know any better, she wants to be just like mummy so she takes her socks or washcloths or whatever is available and stuffs them into her shirts so she can look pregnant like mummy. She is really a very entertaining child with a wild sense of humour. The times that she is making me laugh make up for the times when she is being really obnoxious and I am getting ready to pull my hair out strand by strand. I hope her little sister is not as crazy or I might have to be checking myself into a psychiatric hospital! Let's hope it does not come to that. I really want my daughters to be good friends and will do my best to help them be friends as well as sisters.

I guess we will all just have to wait to meet you dear daughter. We love you already!

Monday, January 28, 2008

My babies and their veggies

To get him to eat his vegetables, I have to blend them into the meal so he cannot pick them out. He will eat them in egusi soup though without complaint, but we can't eat egusi soup every day. That's boring. I have threatened him with stunted growth, the possibility of not living to see his grand children and every possible type of cancer but he is still not convinced that vegetables are good for you. Some probably think I am talking about a little child. No I am talking about my darling husband who I have been trying to persuade to increase his vegetable intake.



My other struggle is to get him to drink more water. Water is important to the sustenance of life isn't it? I mean, 100% juice is good for you too but we all need water. My debating skills must not be as good as I thought they were because this is one fight that I am losing.



The other baby in this house is a legitimate one. She is only 19mths old and does not have the sense to complain about vegetables and water just yet, even though she would rather have juice than water. Hmmm, I wonder where she inherited that trait from (insert eye roll). I'm beginning to think that i should have studied nutrition in school instead of chemistry since I am the designated home dietician! At least they both like to eat fruit.

Well I am fighting my battles one at a time and so far, I think I am making pretty good progress. I welcome creative solutions to my dilema. I'll let you know when i find a way to get the husband to eat and enjoy broccoli, though I have a suspicious feeling that day may never come. But ya never know. hehehehe

Pregnant Supplication

What happens when we pray and specifically ask for something?
It's like a fertilized seed that takes root and begins to grow
Like a zygote embedded in a womb
It may take a while before it grows into something that you can see
You may feel its beginnings and envision its appearance
It is coming but when?
What if something happens to that seed and it dies?
One must protect and nurture it.
One must prepare for its arrival
One must believe that it will come
Embrace the period of gestation.
The pregnant supplication.